When you compare yourself to others, you can label it “unhelpful” or use others' success as inspiration.

Compare to others

When you compare yourself to others, you can label it unhelpful or use others' success as inspiration.

Even if you fall short of achieving a goal, you can gain confidence and practice. When you work toward a goal, you start new behaviors and stop self-defeating behaviors. The secret of goal setting is that it is rocket fuel for behavior change—even if you don’t achieve your goal.

Rocket fuel

Even if you fall short of achieving a goal, you gain confidence and practice. When you work toward a goal, you start new behaviors and stop self-defeating behaviors. The secret of goal setting is that it is rocket fuel for behavior change. Even if you don't achieve your goal.

Replace self-criticism with self-celebration. If something goes poorly, tell yourself, “I’m practicing getting better.”

Getting better

Replace self-criticism with self-celebration. If you feel something went poorly, tell yourself, I'm practicing getting better. If you reward a behavior, you are more likely to do it again, rather than to avoid it.

Don’t get caught in the trap of comparing your darkest moments to others' greatest wins. Choose what you focus on. That choice will determine your emotions.

Choose your emotions

Don't get caught in the trap of comparing your darkest moments to others greatest wins. Choose what you focus on. That choice will determine your emotions.

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